Over the last week and a half, I've been trying to follow a routine of covering at least four
shlokas of The Bhagavad Gita every day. Now, for those who still believe the text is religious, let me tell you that The Gita is far from it.
I have always had this nagging feeling of directionless-ness in life. And its not a hidden fact that spiritual texts, howsoever idealistic they might read, do give you some sense of direction. That was all what I had in mind when I bought the miniature version of this text which has been giving direction to innumerable number of people for some millenia now.
During this expedition of sorts, trying to engage with the spiritual side of life, which I have stayed far away for most of my life, I came across some really valuable aspects one might want to develop in himself.
During the 'lazy afternoon' a couple of days back, I read this post by a senior at college how he finds his lack of rooting - having a place he can truly call, 'home' - a hidden strength. He comprehends his lack of rooting as an absence of 'attachment' - something which allows him to be objective and smart about life.
At first, you might agree to his proposition. After all, it is only when one is free from a pre-defined set of rules to guide your thoughts and per-conceived set of acceptable reactions a place, and its people, might instill in you, can you truly go out of the box and exercise independence - in thought, belief and action.
Talking about people attaching importance to material pleasures, Chapter 2 Verses 43 and 44 of The Gita says :
"kāmātmānaḥ svarga-parā
janma-karma-phala-pradām
kriyā-viśeṣa-bahulāḿ
bhogaiśvarya-gatiḿ prati
bhogaiśvarya-prasaktānāḿ
tayāpahṛta-cetasām
vyavasāyātmikā buddhiḥ
samādhau na vidhīyate"
Translation : People with inadequate knowledge and wisdom often delve into the misleading pleasures of material attachment and wealth. Such people are attached to rituals.
They lose their minds by attaching importance to material pleasures. They cannot this, attain any deep insight into life and attain wisdom.
You might appreciate the text by realizing that it speaks about you and me. And everyone around us. We all have attachments, mostly to objects which have value in terms of money. We often value a person's success depending on the car he rides and the clothes he wears. Naturally, we compare ourselves to such 'material' benchmarks and rate ourselves as to how far we've made it in our lives.
This changes the way we grade achievements. This in turn restricts our thoughts, actions and beliefs; streamlining them towards attaining material pleasures - attaching ourselves to things which money can buy.
Now, here's the argument I have been building all this while. It is absolutely correct to argue attachment can deviate you from objectivity in life. But it is in the 'kind of attachment' that changes the crux of the argument. Material attachment, no doubt, is misleading. And we all are victims of such attachments. But attachment to one's home - now that's essential.
The attachment to one's home is more like a building's to its foundation. The former is likely to cripple down in the absence of the latter at the slightest of tremors. Life is all about tremors - highs and lows - and everyone needs a firm grounding. This attachment to one's roots is more spiritual than material. Its a bond which you shall realize only when you are forced away from it.
Its been 5 months, very short time I must agree, and I miss the little intricacies of my simpler life back in home. The way the bottles are kept, the way the taps run - simple, meaningless things, which I have always taken for granted. And yet, simple meaningless things which make up my home.
It is not very difficult to realize how the premise of a lack of rooting, leading to the conclusion of being un-attached is fundamentally mistaken. Being unattached is a blessing, one we all seek, but to not call a place dear old home, is pathetic.
Home is what you were. Home is what you are. Home is what you shall be. Its a place where you don't have to put on a different self in your quest to deceive the world. Home is where you are yourself - your innermost being, fundamentally ingrained in you. Home is the place where the people are your own, where you can always fall back. Its your second chance.
Home is your humility. Its the place where you belong. To many, these words might read fantastical and utterly misleading but let me reassure you, dear friend, without your home, you are as good as you were yesterday and you shall be as good tomorrow as you are today. Home gives you a yesterday to compare your today and tomorrow with. It a place you can always go back when everything else fails, where you can kneel down and pray.
This attachment, with your home is special. It gives you direction, far from the idea of misleading you. The idea of per-conceived notions and suppositions does arise, but everyone is free to choose his own path. After all, life is about self exploration, isn't it? Home never teaches you to seek material pleasures, its you who does that. Home gives you the comfort of parents next room, the friend next door, the trees by the walk, the memories of yesterday, and the list is endless.